Becoming mum is a brilliant resource for all women on the parenting journey. Based on sensible research, and including key skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), you will find loads of helpful ideas in this book. Both personally and professionally I know that parenting is an intense experience. This book will help you navigate the challenges and joys of parenting. Go buy yourself a copy!
I really enjoyed reading Koa Whittingham’s parenting book Becoming Mum. I believe that this book is a wonderful resource for both clients and practitioners alike. There are many mindfulness scripts recorded in the book to use personally and professionally, that help to provide daily coping strategies and resilience skills. I love that Koa has written a book for mums based on the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) approach – ACT seems to just ‘make sense’ and I’ve found it be very effective with my perinatal clients. Becoming Mum is helpful to understand the different and varied experiences that new mothers face, and is a useful tool in assisting with the ongoing challenges that motherhood presents.
“Becoming Mum” is a truly unique self-help book. There has been a crying need for an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) book for pregnancy and for mothers of infants and Becoming Mum is IT! I cannot recommend it highly enough.
This is a very different book from the usual offerings about impending motherhood that focus on the day-to-day necessities of feeding and sleeping and managing the other duties that impinge. This book focuses very directly on the often distressing thoughts and feelings associated with motherhood – will I be good enough, how will I manage the pain and stress of it all, will my child be disadvantaged by having me as a mother? While the content of the book is based in research and clinical expertise, it does not read like that at all, rather being an easy and joyful read filled with real truths. The insights that are offered in the book allow each person to think from her own perspective about what she values and come to a sense of how she might manage any difficulties that lie ahead. This book fills a gap in the market of such books because it deals with issues that are often not acknowledged or spoken about openly. These are truly important aspects of being a mother that most mothers will encounter in some form at some time. This wonderful book provides a means by which to work through these issues while maintaining your own values and approach to motherhood.
Becoming Mum, the brain-child of Dr Koa Whittingham – psychologist, parenting researcher, author, and mother – opens a window into an infinite world of parenting possibilities. The reader is guided on a journey of self-discovery, awareness, and change. The author empowers mothers to identify their own parenting values and goals and to use these to guide their everyday lives as they work towards nurturing strong and loving relationships with baby, partner, family, and self. The exercises that accompany each chapter, which draw on mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, are not only powerfully transformative, but also provide the reader with a beautiful record of their thoughts, hopes, and emotions at an important time of personal transition and adjustment. This is a user-friendly book with the capacity to generate rapid and positive change in the relationships and lives of every mother and mother-to-be.
Becoming Mum is a must-read for mothers – for those having their first child, for those who have already begun their family, and perhaps most importantly, for those who struggle with thoughts and feelings about parenting that we often feel vulnerable sharing. This book is a lovely space in which develop an awareness of and to explore the deeper experience of parenting, to voice – even if just to oneself- fears and doubts that naturally arise in the transition to becoming a parent. I encourage you put it on your bedside table, and when you have a few moments in between the many tasks of raising an infant, to read it, to savor the exercises, and most of all, open your heart to and pursue the parts of mothering that you hold most dear.
Koa Whittingham has done a wonderful job of creating a book that has a scientific base combined with a lovely, practical and accessible discussion about becoming mum and all that entails, specifically the full gamut of emotions and behaviours. The focus on values and values-driven living is a strength of the book and the sensible and achievable suggestions for simple behaviours that can make a difference support this beautifully. Koa’s passion for the topic combined with her understanding of scientific approaches shines through and makes this an excellent resource for women embarking on the quest or path to motherhood.
In Becoming Mum, Dr. Koa Whittingham encourages readers to engage in interactive exercises that explore and vitalize the psychological passage into motherhood. Koa does an excellent job of normalizing topics such as preparing for and distancing yourself from unwanted advice about parenting, being more self-compassionate when doubts about your parenting choices arise, working through relationship changes with your partner, and making values-based choices about family matters. I think this book has a wide appeal. Its direct approach to how topics are relevant to specific issues that might arise given certain circumstances (e.g., postpartum depression, morning sickness) is novel. I highly recommend it.